In the bookstore you can find many books about survival in primitive deaf forests, on uninhabited islands or in Antarctic. But why are there so few books on how to survive and remain intact and sound in your own house if there is a teenager in it?
Perthtat is turbulent times not only for the teenager himself, but also for his parents. Steel nerves are needed to withstand it. What can mom and dad do to support herself during a teenage rebellion? Here are some of the best strategies of “survival” – tested and verified by the parents themselves.
1. Let him take care of himself
You know the phrase: “I have no clean pants and T -shirts left!”? In response, you are most likely saying: “Because they are all on the floor
in your room, and not in the basket for linen!”And sometimes and:” I did not have time to wash “. If so, it’s time for your teenager to wash their clothes yourself. You want him to become independent and independent?
2. Don’t even try to be cool
When your child is growing up, you cease to be cool. Just humble yourself with this. Forget about your diplomas or a tablet on the cabinet door. Instagram profile (an extremist organization banned in Russia) or Facebook (an extremist organization banned in Russia) will also not help you. Don’t even try to seem cool. Do not copy the appearance of children or use their words. Let yourself be imperfect in their eyes. Treat this as something inevitable-for example, a thunderstorm.
3. Go to the sauna regularly
You envy youths – the fit and strong bodies of your children? You would like to become like that again? This is completely normal. The presence of a teenager in the house is like an endless viewing of fashion magazines with detached models. This is annoying. What helps is frequent passages to a sauna or pool. If you regularly see what people over 15 look like, this returns your self -esteem to place.
4. Plan the weekend after holidays with children
Admit it: unless you dreamed at their age instead of relaxing with your parents to be left without them for at least a few days? Right! So give your young child a little free time and plan a vacation so that he does not match the place and time with his holidays. The less we spend time with them now, the better for everyone. Send your son or daughter to a camp or trip with friends and come up with a trip for yourself.
5. Watch the show “The most stringent parents in the world”
See together or separately at least a few episodes of the reality show “The Strict Parents in the World”. The essence is as follows: unguided teenagers are sent to a strict foster family, where they live for some time to change their attitude towards the father and mother in general. Soon they receive a letter from parents in which they offer to discuss several important issues of interaction in the family.
After that, you will love your offspring again, and he, in turn, will not be able to help but notice: there are “worst” fathers and mother than you. Little nuance: the effect does not last too long.
6. Remember love
When we have children, we quickly forget that my partner and I have feelings and passion for each other, that we-parents-were actually once lovers. Now is the time to remember this. Children, don’t interfere – mom and dad have a date!
7. Do not try to understand and support them 100%
Yes, you want to be as understanding as possible, to become a “good friend” to your son or daughter. However, in fact, adolescents need resistance, friction in relationships, struggle. If you do not provide all this in small dosages, they resort to more radical measures, calling you to battle. If you want to take an important step in the development of your teenage child-set the demarcation line. Show your boundaries, otherwise the invasion is inevitable.
8. Do yoga, dancing, gymnastics
Be sure to come up with some kind of sports lesson. Firstly, physical activity helps to relieve stress. Secondly, this is an occasion to slip away from the Ghost House for at least a couple of hours.
9. Do not be afraid to deviate from expert advice
Books and coaches offer wise tips on how to behave correctly with a teenager. But can we always act as we recommend a guru? It is simply impossible. So why are we starting ourselves, that we again allowed a mistake and allowed ourselves to shout at the impudent teenager? Next time we will not do that, and this is the main thing.
